There are a number of issues that one must consider before deciding to move in with their girl. There are money questions, concerns dealing with one’s new distance from work and distance from friends and family. However, there is one concern that rises above the rest: will one’s “social life” be affected by this move in. Occasionally a guy gets engaged young and right up to the wedding day he will still be living at home unless a miracle happens. Now despite the fact that he is a loser in the first place, if you’re him and your girl invites you to move in, you jump because that miracle just occurred. If one is curious why, it’s simple! You now have your own pad basically rent-free. If she was paying it before than she can still afford it with you there. Just in case she ever does ask you to help out with the rent, tell her that you just being there is payment enough. But if you’re a single guy and not engaged, you still need your space. You need a place where you and your boys can go nuts, watch wrestling, have mini-parties, invite strippers back after the bar and an empty place where you can watch the Yankees win their 27th World Series. No one wants a girl squawking in their ear to clean the bathrooms when you just woke up after a long, hard Saturday night, to watch the Jets at 1PM. Before engagement, one has to keep one’s eligibility status up on the club scene and maintain their player profile. However, after engagement, you should move in with your fiancé. What happens during the engagement period will carry over to the marriage period. Please remember, guys, that once that rock (that is worth three months salary) goes on your girl’s finger, you’re free life is over. Basically one has to apply what Bill Bellamy said in “How to be a Player.” To quote him: “A player never wants a pager because he never wants his girl to know where he is but his girls need one so he can always get in touch with them.” It’s the same when it comes to having your own place. If you live together then she is always going to have tabs on you but if you do not, you are still a free man, at least for now! *oNe