Taboo Talk: There’s a reason “assume” has its own cliche
Feelings that cross the line between friends and more than friends can be complicated and confusing. They oftentimes get messy. And there are times when things don’t go the way you wanted them to.
Everyone has been in a situation where they have liked someone as more than a friend and the feeling was not returned. Everyone has also been in the reverse situation. Everyone has been rejected – everyone has had to reject someone. And if you are going, “Nope, not me,” just wait. Your time will come.
No one likes being in either one of those positions. It’s awkward and uncomfortable. Someone’s ego is bound to get bruised and it’s hard for both sides. But it is a fact of life and it’s nothing to get upset over.
As hard as it is to be in either one of those positions, there is a situation that is even more awkward and uncomfortable. Unlike the situations just described, this one can be avoided – and should be avoided – at all costs.
The assumption: Boy and Girl are talking. Boy thinks Girl is flirting. Boy starts to think Girl likes him. Boy assumes so, talks as if so, and in reality, Girl doesn’t like Boy. So when Boy decides to gently let Girl down, Boy makes a pretty big fool of himself. As a result, Boy feels moronic and Girl thinks he’s rather narcissistic.
Honestly, just because someone is friendly, doesn’t mean they want to get with you. In life, people are going to be nice to you and they are going to be nice to you without the intention of sleeping with you. Going around with a head full of hot air will only hurt your relationships and make you seem rude and arrogant.
The same situation with two people of the same sex is even more of an embarrassment. A lesson to learn early on is just because a person is gay does not mean they are attracted to all members of the same sex – and, for the record, bisexuals are not attracted to every person on this earth. The sad thing is, a lot of people hold these beliefs.
It goes back to someone being friendly – one detail about a person is not a reason to assume anything; especially that they like you more than you think.
If you feel like someone is into you, but you are not sure, don’t worry about it. If you like them, by all means, tell them! Life is short and it’s not a big deal like everyone makes it out to be. But if you just get a vibe that someone likes you, let it go if doesn’t mean a thing to you. Live and let live; just like Lennon said.