Ask any college student, guy or girl, about dating these days and they will probably tell you that nobody dates anymore. Rather, it’s all about hooking up.

Hooking up has become so popular amongst college students because that is what most people are looking for in college. They are looking to have fun and not get tied down by feelings, commitment and relationship drama. People are dismissing all of the traditional values and making their own rules.

Nicole Kizielewicz ’14 says, “people don’t want to get emotionally attached because they’re more concerned with just the physical act of hooking up.”

Let’s be honest, most hook ups in college are drunken and random. One would assume that waking up the next day, hungover and unable to remember the name or even the face of the person you hooked up with the night before, would be a bad thing; however, many don’t see it this way. To most, the hook up is meaningless and doesn’t mean they actually like the person or even ever want to talk to them again.

So what’s the point? A lot of people hook up for the sole purpose of being able to say they hooked up with someone. For some it brings a sense of accomplishment. Plus, it is easy to feel the pressure to hook up when you walk into a room full of guys and girls dancing and making out with each other.

It is commonly assumed that girls are the ones looking for more than just a hook up while the guys are looking only for the hook up. Mike Smith ’14 says, “Guys are the ones who are looking to only hook up, while girls are looking for the hook up but with the dating aspect too.”

This isn’t necessarily true anymore. The girls are becoming just as bad as the guys. So many college girls walk around parties, scantily clad and looking for random male attention. There are girls who honestly just want to hook up and once a girl is drunk it can become pretty clear that her morals are out the window.

The whole college lifestyle really discourages people from dating and encourages partying and hooking up instead. Dating is becoming rapidly obsolete for college students and it is rare that a guy actually asks a girl out anymore.  To most college students, the idea of dating seems awkward and ancient. It sounds pretty ridiculous, but people now become more stressed out about a date than about a hook up. They might wonder what is the point of actually going out and doing something together when they can just hang out and hook up instead?

Annie Eodice ’14 disagrees, “I hate the whole idea of hooking up, I want to be taken on a date. Everything is so backwards now.”

I agree that there are plenty of girls and some guys out there who still want the normal dating experience, but maybe it isn’t that things are backwards. Maybe hooking up really is taking the place of dating. If that’s true, then we can say goodbye to things like respect and meaning in relationships between guys and girls.

People have become so lazy when it comes to actually getting to know the person they’re swapping spit with. Most people agree that dating in college is just too hard, and hooking up is easy. It’s to the point where people are truly becoming less and less focused on actually caring about someone, and more and more focused on just hooking up.

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