Maybe I’m optimistic and live in a fantasy world. Or maybe I am so naïve that I really shouldn’t be writing this column. But, as I look at my group of friends, I find myself to be surrounded by more guys than girls.
Don’t get me wrong, you can’t get anywhere in life without a “Sex and the City” group of girlfriends, but the majority of my friends tend to be males.
Every encounter with a person of the opposite sex requires you to evaluate the situation, bringing you to a crossroad: whether or not to take the high road or the low road, sex or friendship. The obvious answer for most: sex. I can’t argue with the obvious fact that hormones start racing and you are dying for the chance to tell all your girlfriends about the scandalous rendezvous you plan on having with your new guy.
But choosing to test the waters with sexual escapades could possibly cause you to lose the friendship you worked so hard to gain. Yet, there are rare occurrences where guys that you may have once had a “thing” with actually turn out to be some of your best friends. I mean, they know what you like, how to push your buttons and all of your idiosyncrasies; what more could you ask for in a friend? Think 90210.
One of my best friends from home is a guy and I really couldn’t ask for a better friend. He tells it like it is when I need an answer. It’s reassuring to know that I get all the insider trading tips on the guy I’m dating, knowing full well that at some point, my guy friend has felt the same way that my significant other has. Of course, there was a time when a box of Franzia and holiday spirits got in the way, but being mature about the mishap only made our friendship stronger.
Is it really worth the risk to come to the beginning of what could be the end? Maybe yes, maybe no. I say, just go with the flow.
If you can manage to keep a handle on your hormones, I’m talking to you guys, who think that the only way a guy and girl can hang out is in a sexual manner, platonic relationships will never lead you in the wrong direction if a game plan is laid out. If you are looking for good solid friendships, the opposite sex is a good choice.
I mean, who else can you turn to when all you want to do is kick back, relax and let your hair down… hell, you’ll have first dibs on all the guys at the bar.
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