Dear Miss Molly,
Sometimes I just really wish I had a boyfriend. I really don’t want to be single anymore. I feel like in college nobody wants to date. What should I do?
Dear Hopelessly Lonely,
“I just really want a boyfriend.”
“I don’t get why he won’t date me.”
“He won’t date me, but he’s dating HER?”
The amount of times I’ve heard some variation of these panic lines coming from my college girlfriend’s mouths (or mine, guilty as charged) throughout my four years of college is too many too count. In reality, though, being single in college is actually the better route. Take it from someone who has experienced four years of college as a single woman. Although I’ve still had my dating ups and downs, I would still say the single college life is the way to go – and definitely more fun.
Read my top-12 reasons why it’s OK to be single in college, and you will go from hopelessly lonely to perfectly lonely.
12. Because you don’t have to shave your legs. I don’t think any woman can honestly admit they enjoy shaving their legs. Sure, we all like the result of silky smooth, sexy, shiny legs, but the process to getting there? Not so much. Luckily, if you have nobody to impress you don’t have to worry about smooth legs all the time.
11. Because you don’t have to text all day. I hate texting. If you have to tell me something, call me. Relationships have become defined by texting from sunrise to sundown. Is it really necessary to tell your “boo” that you just had a sesame seed bagel, lightly toasted, with cream cheese? Not only with your next phone bill thank you, but so will your sanity (and your girlfriends).
10. Because you’ll always have a funny story on a Saturday morning. Life is unpredictable when you’re single. When you go out, anything can happen. A cocktail (or two) at the bar with your best friends on Friday normally turns into a funny stories over coffee on Saturday.
9. Because you only have to do your own laundry. Let’s be real, ladies. Nobody likes doing a boy’s laundry no matter how much you love them. Boy’s laundry is at least 10x more disgusting than ours. You can cross one load of laundry off your list.
8. Because you can flirt anytime, anywhere. The cute guy across the bar, in the elevator, at the gym, or in the line at Starbucks; nobody is off limits when you’re single.
7. Because I look so good without you. People often get comfortable in relationship and let their appearance suffer. If you’re still on the market, you want to put your best self forward. Your hair is always highlighted, lips are always glossed, and you hit the gym at least a few times a week, because you never know who you’re going to run into.
6. Because you learn to be strong on your own. Girls in relationships often become dependent on their boyfriend. Being single, you learn how to live life on your own without relying on another person.
5. Because you can do whatever you want. Whether its going to the bar on a Tuesday, dancing around in an oversized t-shirt to Brittany Spears or accidentally finishing a bottle of wine and bag of Hershey kisses while watching “Sex and the City.” When you’re single, anything goes.
4. Because you have high standards. Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean nobody’s tried to date you in your life. Being single means you haven’t settled. You’re waiting for your knight in shining armor, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
3. Because you don’t have to waste money on someone else. When you’re in a relationship, it seems like there’s a holiday every week. From anniversaries to Christmas to Valentine’s Day, thats a lot of money being spent on someone else, money that could be spent on shoes, Starbucks and clothes (for yourself).
2. Because you don’t risk getting your heart broken. Anyone who’s had their heart broken knows its one of the worst things you’ll experience in your life. Imagine wasting four years of college that you can’t get back on a relationship that ended in heartbreak. College is the one time in your life you can truly live with no regrets, make sure you live it to the fullest.
1. Because the best is yet to come. Being single means your prince charming is out there somewhere, you just haven’t met him yet. Be happy that a beautiful relationship is awaiting you in the future and have fun kissing all the frogs along the way.
Having said all that, if you are in college and happily in a relationship, that is wonderful. But if you’re single, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. If you look at all the reasons you’re making the most of your college experience, you won’t feel so bad.