What does a kiss really mean? Sometimes kissing can be just as ambiguous and confusing as the term “hook-up.”
A study done by the University of Albany showed that “women use kissing to examine their respective mate.”
They also use it to “determine whether a partner is healthy and if the male will stick around for the long haul,” according to a U-Wire article.
But for Fairfield students, is there really more to kissing than just animal instinct and physical attraction?
Although the male mind may think that women are only interested in the best looking or most athletic guys, it seems the biology of kissing is only of small significance in the grand scheme of things.
Drunken encounters aside, it takes something more intimate to set the stage for something more serious to happen.
Carly Jurman ’11 said that a kiss “doesn’t really mean anything unless you like the person.”
Maury Mosquea ’11 said that intimacy leads to deeper feelings, not just kissing.
Many students agreed that kissing is not the only thing required for an emotional connection to form.
“An emotional connection comes in conversation,” said Taylor Ferracane ’11.
If a guy can make a girl laugh while remaining genuine, his credibility gets lower because a girl will ask herself why go through all the trouble of getting to know the guy if all he wants is a random hook-up.
Being a good kisser may have its drawbacks.
“When you’re kissing a good kisser, you wonder how many girls he’s been with,” said Jurman.
Everyone has the ability to kiss, but to get better people must practice. Although most people find kissing enjoyable, it can be a little uncomfortable to discover that your partner has a past. In the back of your mind, there is a sort of attachment to the idea that the kiss you’re sharing is something special.
Practice may be one factor, but attitude plays an even bigger role in determining if something more is to come after your first kiss.
“Nothing is worse than a girl with a bad attitude,” says Charlie Antinori ’11. “It doesn’t matter how attractive she is, if she doesn’t treat you right, give her the boot.”
The most unattractive thing about a person is not necessarily limited to his or her appearance, but more so their character.
First impressions are crucial, so watch what you say; you don’t want to misrepresent yourself and then be left with lips kissing nothing but thin air.
Being physically unattractive is not a crime, nor should that be a reason to shy away from someone you may find attractive. Beauty should be found in the words that are exchanged over long conversations when there is no one around but the wind through an open window of a dorm room, and definitely not through the bottle of a beer after a long night at the bar.
Some students, including Allison Kennedy ’11, said an ideal kiss is something that “makes your knees go weak.”
But when all is said and done, you want to kiss someone you can trust.
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