SHE SAID… Who thinks about exes more, girls or guys?

I spent the other night in one of those typical online hate sessions with an ex-boyfriend. The core of the argument was so ridiculous-it was about the fact that I thought his profile was cheesy. That’s just about how conversations with exes always seem to go, no matter who you ask.

For whatever reason, couples get along beautifully when they are together, and the trick is that they get to know each other so well. This little handy detail comes to stab us all in the foot when we break up, because we decide to use all that knowledge for the sole purpose of pissing him or her off! Yesssss!

Ok, I’m obviously exaggerating. Not every relationship with the ex is like this. Some exes really do become friends. There’s that ex who we’ll always fondly think about, and there is the one who makes us realize how much we’ve grown. I don’t really think I can say if I think girls or guys think about exes more; it seems that both think about them in a sort of distant manner.

It just seems that girls talk about them more, whereas guys would get tearfully bored if they decided to make exes the topic of conversation one night. Deep down, I have a feeling that despite our gender, we all think about our past and everything about it for about the same amount of time.

This depends on whether or not you are fully over your ex. There is a certain period of time when a particular ex is completely on your mind, especially when you realize you can’t easily pick up the phone to tell him or her about your day. However, this doesn’t last forever, and you eventually realize that being apart was the right decision to begin with. Even if you didn’t want it at the time, you learn to understand that it’s better off that way. Sometimes, this isn’t right either, and you end up back together. Ugh, what a mess.

In the end, we all need to realize that thinking about exes is normal, to a certain degree. Stay away from people who can’t stop talking about their exes, it’s sort of disheartening. And if you do that, then stop. Also, don’t move on until you realize that you are actually over the old ex. I’ve seen it happen and it’s just bad news. Yikes.