Dear Dee,
The other week I was sitting in my dorm room and kiddingly told my roommate that I was going to go on one of those dating sites to see if there were any hot girls out there. He dared me to do it, so of course I signed up and filled out all the forms. My problem is this: I actually have talked to this girl who seems great. Should I continue to pursue the relationship or will everyone think it is weird I met her on a dating site?
— Dating.comer
Dear Dating.comer,
Oh man, guys and their “macho-ness.” When are you going to realize that being sensitive and caring about a girl doesn’t mean losing your manly parts?
So here’s the thing. Why do you like this girl? Is she interesting? Funny? Smart, cute, sexy and thoughtful? Or does she seem great because under her job details it says “DD” … and you were double doggy dared to sign up.
All joking aside, if you really like her because she really is a great girl, then why let what people might say get in the way of something truly wonderful? People will always talk, no matter what. You could be a firefighter who saves a family of four and a golden retriever from a burning house and people will still find a reason to talk bad. This is why you need to ask yourself if you’re doing this and continuing to talk to this girl for the right reasons. If you really like her, who cares what people say. It’s the fact that you wind up with her that matters, not whether you prove yourself to your buddy.
And yes, maybe someone will think it’s weird you found her on a dating site. And maybe, just maybe, it may be your own best friend who dared you to do it in the first place. But you must remember, a lot of times it is the jealous people who have the worst to say about you.
Whatever you decide to do, just make sure you’re being true to yourself and not picking a choice based on what other people might say. And if this girl is really as great as she sounds, then it won’t matter what anyone has to say good or bad because you’ll be too happy with her to care.
If you ask me, it sounds like the juice is worth the squeeze.
Disclaimer: This column is for entertainment only. The author is a student, not a licensed therapist, and this column is not intended to take the place of professional advice. The views expressed are the author’s and are not necessarily shared by The Mirror or its staff.
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