DearDee,
I’ve had my eye on a junior in the block next to me. We have a class together, but he sits on the other side of the room. I always see him out at parties, but don’t know how to approach him without sounding like a total creep! Should I try to start up a conversation or ask him for his notes after class one day? Since this is my last year in college, I really want to make the best of it! Please help me! -Last Chance at Stag Romance
Dear Last Chance at Stag Romance,
Just reading this, I got excited! It’s always exciting to have a crush but sometimes it can be a little nerve-wracking too. It’s completely normal to be afraid to put yourself out there and make it known that you are interested, but sometimes that’s really all it takes. From what my guy friends have ever said to me, guys are pretty simple. All it may take is for you to simply walk up to him and say, “hey, my name is X, and I was wondering if you were interested in hanging out.” Regardless, this is SO much easier said than done, which is why we take different routes to show someone we like them.
Having a class with him is key. This opens the door to a conversation or even a chance to study together. If you can, I would definitely start by asking for his notes one day, or even going as far as asking him to study with you before a test.
Facebook can help out a lot with this too. You can always start by friending him if you aren’t friends with him already and shoot him a message saying you noticed he was in your class and was wondering if he wanted to form a study group for a test coming up.
If you happen to see him at a party, introduce yourself! Parties are good settings because it’s a friendly atmosphere (and a little liquid courage doesn’t hurt either, key word being ‘little’). When you introduce yourself, mention you are in a class together. It is a great conversation starter and from there you can see how the conversation goes.
The face-to-face conversation may feel intimidating, but it also gives you the chance to see what kind of person he is. If the conversation goes well, you can drop a hint to hang out or meet up at a party. One thing to take into consideration though is the time and setting. Make sure to only ask those questions if it is a one to one chat and not in front of 20 other people. You don’t want either of you to feel pressured.
The hardest step is the first one, but it’s also the most crucial. If you put yourself out there and introduce yourself and this guy is a jerk or acts weirded out, then he wasn’t the nice guy he seemed like. I promise that by simply introducing yourself and starting a conversation you will NOT come off as a creep! If anything, you come off as a strong, confident girl and if he doesn’t see that, then it’s his loss anyway and it’s a good thing you found that out now instead of wasting more time on him.
It may not work out, but if you don’t attempt you’ll never know! Carpe Diem. And good luck!
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