My parents always told me that you should learn from your mistakes, but in some cases there are ways to avoid life-altering blunders-especially when it comes to your best friends and the guys that they date.
Now, every one of my friends is entitled to her own taste in men but sometimes girls can be blinded by who they think is prince charming; anyone is blinded after being told how beautiful you are. That crap only happens in fairy tales and it’s time to step in and be the little mice that saved Cinderella.
College guys think that anything they say can lure a girl in and all her friends will love him as well. No good friend would ever let her best friend be suckered into a relationship where she is constantly doing his laundry or not allowed to go out for a “ladies night.”
When it comes to this point, girls, step up and do what we do best… interfere in every aspect of the relationship.
Let me set up a visual… you are at the Grape and you see your friend talking to the same guy that whispered to you last year, “Baby if I was with you, things would be different. I would never look at another girl.”
So you and a bunch of your girlfriends head out on your top secret mission to end the biggest mistake of your dear friend’s life. Make the usual round and end up standing next to them. Introduce yourselves then nonchalantly pull her into the bathroom.
Whether or not he has hooked up with one girl in four years or if he has boffed the entire female percentage of your class, you don’t want to lose a good friend to a cheap guy. From the outside looking in, friends always see the flaws that “love” can mask so let her know straight up.
And if you don’t, know that in two months she’s going to be so upset over his wandering eye that 15 trips to Starbucks in one week to analyze the situation will not help.
It has happened to us all, and why let your best friend make the same mistake that you have kicked yourself in the ass for doing?
Of course, there are those select few men out there that are worth your friend’s persistent nature. And if he truly makes her happy-bringing flowers to everyone in the house when he comes to pick her up-then take a step back and let it run its course.
Best advice, by this time in our lives, most of us have had our handful of guys, good and bad. Don’t interject unless she asks, it could ruin your chance of being a bridesmaid at the wedding.
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