When you first start dating a guy, whether or not he opens his wallet can offer you a crucial insight into his family values and how he will treat you later on in the relationship. First dates, I believe, he should pay; but ladies, be smart, never go without offering.
On any normal circumstance, our adamant “desire” to pay will without a doubt trigger some sort of reflex in their masculinity, causing them to immediately “man-up” and refuse our money. Bonus point for us.
Seriously though, what girl doesn’t want to be spoiled rotten with dinners, movies, and if you’re ever so lucky, a few shopping sprees here and there? Don’t think I’m being pretentious, I’m just being honest and I only am telling it like it is. A typical girl would love to find herself a guy that has no problem cracking his wallet whenever a hedonistic desire pops into our minds.
However, at this point in our lives, the only man who will continually meet our outrageous desires would be our father. And I’m sorry to say it; our dads aren’t here at Fairfield.
Yet despite all of our wants and needs, there comes a point in time when every girl should slip out of the “gold digging, buy me everything I want” attitude and open up her wallet and treat her guy. Unless mommy and daddy cut you an allowance every week, people around here need to earn their money. If he’s working hard for you, you should reciprocate the offer. There definitely are those guys who will refuse to let you pay regardless of how thick his wallet is, but even then, steal the check when he goes to bathroom…He needs to be treated, too.
Personally, I don’t fall into the stereotypical Fairfield-girl mentality where the thought of actually treating someone beside myself is so outlandish. Hell, sometimes I want to pay. But don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy the occasional night out on the town where I can sit back and be treated like a queen- nothing less than the best as my father would say.
Ladies, you deserve the best and if a guy can’t see that from the start he’s never going to see it at any point in your relationship. I mean, start off small, see if he’ll buy you a beer. But a word to the wise, return the favor however you deem necessary.
Guys have been spending money on us since I can remember. Spend a few dollars now, and who knows, maybe you’ll find a great guy who’ll respect you and appreciate your sincerity and generosity while you enjoy the joint bank account.
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