Hanging out. Hooking up. There’s hardly room for dating anymore between the two, and if you’re looking for “that special someone,” then you might have a hard time.
As far as dating is concerned, awkward first dinners or that first movie together are virtually obsolete in light of today’s hookup culture. The first date was the “get to know you” stage. The new stage is the “talking stage,” and precedes the first date. The first date comes when topics of conversation run out.
Have one-night-stands replaced old-fashioned dating? Not quite, said Jon Brewer, a sophomore at Boston University, “Every group of people is different. Our group of friends looks more towards being happy now and in the future, whereas others live for the moment and decide to do what they think is fun now and worry about the consequences later.”
“Those are the kind of people that take the one night stands over learning peoples names and having a longer relationship,” he added.
Matt Grasso, ’04 used to be one of “those people,” but not anymore. “I guess I found the right girl,” he said, referring to his girlfriend.
A survey conducted by CNN concluded traditional dates are few and far between. Ninety-one percent of women noted an abundance of hookups on their campuses.
Steph Finelli ’06 said she prefers relationships, but that “in high school I had friends that would just go around at parties and just make-out; do whatever. I have some friends with long-term relationships, but everyone else I hang out with at FU is single.”
“I think there are more hookups in college,” Finelli said. “Obviously there’s going to be more hookups,” Brewer agreed, “Cause people like to experiment and see what they’re looking for but their mindset is to find someone.”
“I guess most people want to be in relationships” Brewer said, “‘Cause they’re always looking for ‘that special someone.'”
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