SHE SAID…

If this question was posed to me a mere four years ago, I’d say (without hesitation of course) that everyone gets what he or she deserves in life, and it was that simple.

Nice people would have it all in the end. Ahh, what bitter experiences during four years of college can do to someone’s opinion. I think about it now, and the first answer that comes to mind is that nice guys and girls get the shaft, and always will.

I know I am not alone. Many of my peers have had less than perfect experiences and have given up by now. We have seen way too many friends (including ourselves) in disappointing relationships. It happens all the time. Half of the relationship is just way too good for the other that it is blatantly obvious. It’s frustrating – but look around, and think of it logically. Do we ever truly approve of our best friends’ significant others, or are we constantly placing them on the highest of pedestals?

Anyway, so … yes, I generally think that nice girls and guys often don’t make out like they should. At least at this time in life they don’t, because people are either too confused about what’s important, and if they aren’t, they don’t care enough to look for those particular qualities in someone.

Also, it has to do with choices. I often hear both nice guys and girls complaining about predicaments in which they have become involved and how they have been screwed over. Well, it all comes down to the choice they originally made to overlook a certain someone with a kind heart and go for the danger because it’s more fun.

I’m not saying I am totally unaffected by this phenomenon. I have gotten so annoyed in the past watching friends (especially guy friends) go for these ridiculous girls and completely overlook someone much better for them. Also, if I said I never discounted a nice guy or went for the “dangerous” one, I’d be lying. It’s life. I can only hope that we’ll all grow up one day and everyone will get what he or she deserves. Who knows, maybe my naivety in high school will hold true in the end, and good people won’t just be everybody’s “favorite little buddy.” Oh boy.